So you feel like you're killin' it at life next minute someone comes along, doing and succeeding ten fold at everything you have been working on for what feels like ever and they do it in what feels 5 minutes, you try to avoid comparison but that is made hard when they are f*cking everywhere in your life and you just cannot avoid them no matter what.
How can you stop comparing in a world where it feels like everyone is competing? A world where it feels like everyone is out for themselves and barely anyone wants to work together "team work makes the dream work" how many times have you heard that saying and your eyeballs have just about touched your brain from rolling so far back in your skull..?
I will admit there has been many times in this year & last year where I have thought about throwing the towel in and giving up on my dreams and becoming a stripper (don't worry mum I'm too uncoordinated) all because of someone else leading me to think I'm not good enough or my hopes and dreams f*cking insane.
The amount of tears I have shed are probably enough to fill 10 shell pools from Kmart, I have stressed so hard I feel like I have aged about 500 years. Some weeks I love life, some weeks I want to hide under a rock with vodka.. that's saying a lot for someone who doesn't drink & sometimes I lay awake at night wondering what the f*ck am I doing with my life, I was lead to believe by the ripe age of 27 I should have my $hit together... guess what? I don't. Adulting is hard.
So how to we work on stopping this bull$hit self talk that tells us we're not good enough and never will be? First of all let go of expectations of what you think society expect of you. We're in the 21st century baby we're not living in the past where women used to stay at home and make sandwiches! You want something.. go & f*cking get it.
Secondly we were all created equally so if you really want it put your all into it and go and get it. Chances are if you see someone who admire or look up to they have worked f*cking hard to get to where they are.
Thirdly everyone in life is on their own journey no matter how big or small it all counts. Life happens for you, not to you.
And lastly the sooner you realise your self worth the sooner the automation of comparison fades away. I personally find doing something for myself helps empower me and helps me feel great about myself.
I'm not perfect and do find myself comparing myself to others sometimes, I also find myself in a sea of self pity more often than I would like to admit and go down hill from there, but at the end of the day it's important to recognise how far you have come and that it's your journey no one else's. Just remember no one can't make you feel inferior without your consent.