Admittedly it has taken me a long time to get to this point in life (25 years old to be exact) but maybe what I say now will help you realise your potential, and get to the stage that I am at sooner.
Let's talk about judgement.... It's a cruel world and no matter what you do someone out there will judge you for something that has nothing to do with them. It's more to do with their insecurities so keep that in mind.
The best method to overcome the fear of judgement is to not give a $hit what anyone else says or thinks.. Will their opinions pay your bills? No is the answer to that question! So keep on doing what you're doing. We live in a world where there is no pleasing everyone. There is ALWAYS going to be people that judge you, no matter what. What is the worst thing that could happen if/when someone judges you? .. NOTHING! So who cares!
You can't let the judgement of others stop you from being yourself. My mission in life is to help others realise that what others think of you is irrelevant to your journey and the best thing in life you can be, is to be your true self.
Be true, be you.
Your fitness journey begins with yourself.. YOU have to decide this is what YOU want and you have to want to help yourself before anyone else can help you in your journey.
There are some stages in life where you have to learn to be independent and stand on your own two feet. Of course people will be there to help you along the way, but there is only so much those people can do for you if you don't believe in yourself or aren't committed to the idea.. So put on your big girl pants and just do it! Stop doubting yourself and making every excuse under the sun.. Its time to make a start, your future self will thank you.
WHERE THERE IS A WILL, THERE IS A WAY!
If you really want something you will find a way, if you don't you will find an excuse - which is something i did for many years;
I recently found an old blog post from 2 years ago; "I just want to succeed in one thing in life and that is be happy with myself when i look in the mirror. Last year i promised myself i would be looking good for summer, once again i don't and didn't go to the beach. My bf is very supportive but i know it must suck because I'm 10kg more of a girl then i was when we first met."
I remember that moment, that moment was when I made a promise to myself that I knew I needed to keep. That moment was when I took responsibility for myself, I wrote it down so I could hold myself accountable. I stopped blaming others and started taking responsibility for my actions. I had hit rock bottom, looking back from then to now I have gone to being sad and eating my feelings to soooo HAPPY and feeling great about myself and my awesome life. Making my health and a priority has changed my life and the way i think about things. Reading that post made me sad to think I was ever that sad but I have changed my life for the better an I haven't looked back since.
Blaming others will never better you. It only makes sure that you stay exactly where you are and miss out on the best parts of life. So I am asking you to become your own hero, you only get one life so make sure you hold yourself accountable to it!
Make a change today, YOU can do it!
Sometimes I find myself struggling to complete workouts, partly because I find it so hard to switch off at the gym as there is just so much on my mind and for some reason I feel it has higher priority than the gym.
This is what I constantly think about;
· What about all the cleaning?
· I have so much washing to do?
· I forgot to do that thing at work?
· I need to do my food prep
· Money and the cost of general living expenses
· What will happen with my future?
A thought that ALWAYS crosses my mind is instead of being at the gym or doing a home workout is that I could be cleaning or doing the washing. The more I thought about it, the more I realised I am at the gym working out after a 9 hour day, because my health is important to me and I need some ME time. Without my health I would find some of the above tasks difficult.
I don't have kids myself and I understand life gets complicated & busy when you have them, but just think in years to come when you can run around with your kids and encourage them to be healthy because of you leading by example to me that seems like a great achievement, being healthy and fit makes you a happier parent with energy to play. Setting a positive example by being healthy is important as we move forward to fight against a world overwhelmingly filled with easy, fast food options, more technology and screen time and less movement, exercise and time outdoors
There is only one you, you have one body and one life so make the most of it, I don't think anyone has ever looked back on their life and said wow I'm so glad I did all my washing and mopped my floors.
It is ok to look after yourself and put yourself first, it's ok to be "selfish" make time for yourself and do what YOU want to do!
I'm telling you now, changing your mindset and priorities will change your life! I break all my tasks down or set aside specific time/day for my household chores.. That way my mind is clear from clutter and I can focus on what I am doing at the time. Don’t get me wrong it has taken me a while to get to this point I was very into cleaning at one stage and missed out on a lot of fun things because I wanted to have a nice and clean house – which no one got to see because I was/kinda still am a hermit.
I feel better with routine and structure, but it's totally fine if that isn't how you roll. Life is all about finding out what works for you! I make my cleaning days the weekends, I put my washing on before I go to bed and wake up and either hang it out or put it in the dryer before I walk my dogs at 430am on weekdays (that's if I can be bothered) if I CBF I just do the Mount Everest size pile of washing over the weekend bit by bit.. I choose to do all of that then because once I get home from the gym after working all I want to do is lay on the couch and relax and not feel guilty about it.
My best advice to you would be to think of your health/ ultimate goal and learn to put yourself first rather than sacrificing what you want to do so you can clean and make sure your household chores are completed and think of ways to maximise your time such as food prepping in bulk – put the slow cooker on whilst you are at work or on Sunday so your food is ready for the upcoming week. What about sticking a load of washing on whilst you go for a walk..? Multitasking is my best friend and I am constantly thinking/ trying new things that will help me get to where I want in a timely manner.
DO NOT let those thoughts creep into your mind when you are on the way to the gym “I really should just go home and do the mountain of washing” commit to your work out and think how amazing you will feel after it is done!! A one hour workout is literally 4% of your day and that washing will still be there on the weekend!
I am here to tell you and show you that there is nothing wrong with taking time out for yourself and doing what you enjoy.